Trying to Find That Perfect Church Environment

I have to ask - is there such a thing as a perfect church environment? Do you have a church without  tension, judgment, cliques, lack of volunteers, etc.? The list could go on and on of the reasons why you don't like this church or that church. Our family is in a holding pattern. Currently we do not have a home church. We actually home church watching online sermons. Many fellow Christians would view this as not really "doing church" and might even through a little disapproval our way. They might say "What about congregating with fellow believers like the Bible says we are supposed to do", or simply "Why weren't you in church this past Sunday".

Our family has many reasons as to why we have found ourselves in the predicament that we are currently in. We loved our home church and up until a couple of years ago you would find us there nearly every time the door was open. For the last 11 years you couldn't tear me away, but something began to slowly change over the past 2-3 years. I still don't know if those changes in our thought patterns about church are going to turn out to be a good thing or a bad thing. I know that at times I really miss my church family (not that I couldn't get together with them any time I pleased by simply picking up the phone and inviting them over).

I'm looking for something different in a church. Something that doesn't revolve around showing up every Wednesday and Sunday to sit in a pew, listen to a message, go out and have lunch, then go home. I want to be involved in something bigger and more meaningful. I don't want the focus to be on me getting something from the church but me giving something to the church. Not the church building or church members but the body of believers or maybe not believers in our community. Not waiting for the hurt and brokenhearted to come to us and join in yet one more church program, but going out to them. Instead of spending money on church programs, building upkeep, staff salaries -  actually taking the tithing money collected and doing something in the community for the hungry, the hurting, the needy.

Does this type of church exist? Am I setting my sights on something that isn't attainable? Would other believers want the same? Something authentic. Something real. Something beautiful. Something life changing.